Lingam is the Sanskrit word for penis and loosely translates to "wand of light." In tantra philosophy, we approach the lingam from a place of the utmost love and respect, the same way we approach the yoni, or vagina. (The yoni massage might be considered the equivalent of the lingam massage, just performed on people with vaginas.) When you bring your partner pleasure through their "wand of light," you are filled with that same energy or light in a conscious exchange of energy in giving and receiving pleasure. There are about as many different types of erotic massage as there are ice cream flavours, each offering their own specific techniques and benefits. While erotic massage can be performed by men or women, most masseuses are women. Your massage can be more on the therapeutic end of the spectrum, like a Thai massage with a happy ending, or much much more on the intimate end of the spectrum, like a tantric massage. http://www.investingtweets.com/forums/profile/carltonluther33/ This massage technique is quite similar to kneading bread dough. Start by squeezing your partnerвЂ™s back and buttocks using your one handвЂ™s fingers and thumb gently and in a flowing motion. Move onto another area of the back until you have gently kneading your partnerвЂ™s entire back from the neck all the way down to the buttocks between your fingers and thumb while using your other hand to alternate the kneading motion. It is a great idea to use more pressure on areas like the buttocks for your partner to have a more sensual experience. – A whole body massage before the genital massage is also key. It relaxes him and activates the parasympathetic nervous system. He’s much more open and in touch with his body and sensations become heightened. I have had therapeutic (non-erotic) massages where toward the end, I was so relaxed and sensitive to touch, just massaging the palm of my hand started an erection! Over time, I believe it re-wires a man’s nervous system enabling his sexuality to be more full-bodied, rather than his usual genital focus.